Newly sober and dating
Still, I didn’t get into a relationship until my second year of sobriety.Ever since freshman year of high school, I always had a girlfriend.I want to share with you all some of my experience as well as my point of view on the subject.I’ll start by letting you know this, when I asked my sponsor about not dating my first year of sobriety, he looked me in the eyes and said, “Well, it doesn’t say that anywhere in the Big Book.” So, my sponsor who is a Big Book thumper was telling me that although people suggest it, there’s nothing in the program of recovery that’s outlined in the Big Book that says otherwise.It is very easy to prioritize a new relationship over one's recovery.Since most alcoholics are not good listeners, and we all need companionship, the best thing to do when dating is, don't date another alcoholic. Look at it as practice -- See if you can develop a relationship before it becomes about sex.It isn’t something you’ll find written in most recovery literature, however, it is important to your health, your well being and your sobriety.Following this advice isn’t on the agenda of most newly sober individuals though.
When you're turning your life around 180 degrees, let the dust settle. BILL: "There was a very good looking woman at the meeting," Eddie goes on. DAVE: On the face of it, a seemingly sensible idea.
“In general, the first year of recovery seems to be the most vulnerable time for relapse,” he says.
“It’s important to wait because you’re going to be doing clinical psychological work in the first year which will help you know better if a person is good for you or not.”Dr.
Remember, the right man or woman will find you when you are the one they want to be with." DR.
DAVE: Eddie may not know it, but he is in step with AA's founders. There is no way I am going to sleep alone for a year. DAVE: If Eddie's wife had wanted to divorce him, her Alanon sponsor would very likely have advised her not to leave him for a year.